I am delighted and proud that my actions in the last 30 years of teaching supports equality, union and non-judgment.  Both studios follow the 2010 discrimination act. If you pop by you will find clients with all sorts of conditions, diseases and beliefs.  When we do Pilates, we become one. As the world becomes more challenged I will continue to provide services for everyone regardless of the background, race, sexuality, religion, colour, dis-ease, education, mental health condition, weight,  criminal record, vaccinated, unvaccinated and the list goes on…..

“If you collect 100 black ants and 100 fire ants and put them in a glass jar, nothing will happen.

But if you take the jar, shake it violently and leave it on the table, the ants will start killing each other.

Red believes that black is the enemy, while black believes that red is the enemy, when the real enemy is the person who shook the jar.

The same is true in society.

Men vs Women

Black vs White

Faith vs Science

Young vs Old

Etc …

Before we fight each other, we must ask ourselves:

Who shook the jar?

~David Attenborough~

Forgiveness is not about condoning the behaviour, it’s about thanking the situation for giving you the lesson.  When do we grow the most in life? Is it pleasure or pain? Staying in relationships (work, belief system)  that is not following your soul is teaching your unconscious, that this is acceptable and this is what you need to do to get by in life, to fit in, and to finish the jigsaw puzzle. If there is a bend in the river should you jump out of it ?? No, lower the importance of the event.  It’s like continually  pressing the snooze button , the alarm will keep going off. There is no happy ending to an unhappy journey. Find consistency and commitment. You cannot grow in life by staying comfortable, we need discomfort . There is no success without failure.

When you lower the importance of something, the opportunity will often present itself. This is because we are not operating out of fear, scarcity, resentment and the fear ego. We will let our problems operate as baggage until we let go of scarcity. Understanding that these feelings are limitations. They make us feel hurt,  rejected , disappointed and let down. No one can make you feel anyway, without your permission. Having the ability to deal with set backs, is a skill set that can be learned. The more impact you have on the world, the more impact you have by not arguing the behaviour and mindset of others.

Instead of trying to be right, try to be free.

Life will keep giving you more problems till you learn the lesson . Most of us have fear of failure, we have two choices . We can either hide and avoid feeling disappointed or become more powerful by loving the experience and taking the task in hand on. Everything in life is our perception. The work of Byron Katie tells us that it is our perception of the problem and our behaviour and belief system. We can feel less reactive by knowing that:

  • We need more understanding
  • More loving
  • More energy
  • More empathy

When we acquire those attributes we become better leaders, parents and a society as a whole. When something happens, has it given you a learning experience?? Actioning it is very difficult. What action can you take with this experience??

Think of an uncomfortable /unpleasant situation. Write down the five things you dislike and five reason to be grateful for.

We cannot expect everyone to have the same morals, values and behaviours as ourselves. This is not condemning the behaviour. When we think that someone should or should not ,we become attached. We cause our own friction. Life is a growth centered experience not a comfort centered experience . A scarcity mindset is triggered by fear . An abundant mindset is triggered by gratitude. The opposite of forgiveness is resentment. Do the inner work on the mind and soul and it will show in your action .


Byron Katie

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