Are you still looking in the mirror to confirm your beauty and love?

We all suffer the ups and downs of life like Laird Hamilton surfing the big waves. One of the most fundamental challenges in life is to understand our relationships, both with ourselves and those around us.

In my studies and work with clients, I’ve found that the love principle is the most important of all. If you can not hold a mirror up and say: “I love you Joe Bloggs”, your heading for a struggle with the self and this can show an injury, illness and disease. Being able to give and receive love gives us a better understanding of yourself and also develops long healthy lasting relationships.

Now the media will portray loving ourselves and others aesthetic and also by having material products. You ‘ll hear me say: “Have you cut it out, juiced it out, lasered it out, manipulated out, pumped it in”, these are all quick fixes treating the symptoms and not the root cause.


We all know what the phrase “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” means, that what I find beautiful, you may not: that our perception of beauty is subjective. What is the criterion of beauty? Is the appearance of outer beauty just skin deep, or is it a reflection of the inner.

“The outer beauty comes from a different source than the inner. The outer beauty comes from your father and mother: their bodies create your body. But the inner beauty comes from your own growth of consciousness that you are carrying from many lives.”

“In your individuality, both are joined, the physical heritage from your father and mother and the spiritual heritage of your own past lives, its consciousness, its bliss, its joy.” Osho, Sat Chit Anand, talk 27



Having a healthy sense of the self is so important. Ask yourself “How am I showing my love to myself?”, “How can I accept my own love for myself?”. These are more difficult questions to answer than you think until you can answer them fully be careful of your relationships with yourself and others. A lack of self-love may mean your passing on your own hang ups to others or it even shows up in the body. So always evaluate your relationship with yourself before you start on others.

I find that when we truly accept and approve of ourselves exactly as we are, then everything in life works. Its little miracles are everywhere. Our health improves, we attract more money, our relationships become much more fulfilling and we begin to express ourselves in creatively fulfilling this seems to happen without any effort.


Loving and approving of yourself, creating a space for safety, trusting, deserving and accepting, will create an organization in your mind, create more loving relationships in your life, attract a new job, a new and better place to live and even enable your body weight to normalise. people who love themselves and their bodies neither abuse themselves nor others.

Self-approval and self-acceptance in the now are the main keys to positive changes in every area of our lives.

In conclusion, a relationship that truly embraces the love principle whether it be parent-child, partners, and works colleagues will enable growth on all sides. That includes most importantly the relationship with yourself.


Paul Chek

“You can heal yourself”- Louise Hay