Complaining, gossiping and bitching about others, takes us to our lowest level of survival. When we encounter any sort of pain whether it be physical, mental, spiritual or emotional, we tend to react rather than reflect.
How do we know this is true?
Our entire media, reality TV, newspapers, soap operas keep us preoccupied with what is shown to us rather than much of the true hurt and pain that is going on worldwide. We discuss what makes us feel comfortable rather than things that will question our belief system and challenge and grow us.
I am often triggered and irritated by many things, the marketing/consumption of ultra processed foods, poverty, divide, litter and over consumption of packaging just being a few of them.
However, if we want the world to change, we must work on ourselves and change ourselves. We are energy, every cell can change, one at a time – when we heal ourselves, we heal others.
We tell ourselves that everything is set in stone, it’s our genes, our circumstances, our upbringing and environment.
Bruce Lipton’s discovery of epigenetics tells us this is not true. As he goes onto say: ‘Your genes load the gun, the environment pulls the trigger’.
‘Change will very rarely happen until the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of doing the work.’ – Paul Mort
We cannot expect others to grow and change if they are not willing to do any work. We are projecting what we want onto others. The more we judge each other, the more we stimulate separation and segregation:
I see this in many things including:
- Religion
- Vaccination
- Politics
- Abortion
- Circumcision
And the list goes on……
When we put more than arm’s length between us, this distance gets bigger and bigger, hence depart will occur and then nothing can change. When we truly grow, we have more empathy and compassion with each other.
Every moment of the day you have a choice, is it going to be connection or disconnection?
Any triggers that you are experiencing from others often reflects your shadow. The qualities we dislike in others are often a reflection of inner work that needs to happen deep within ourselves. Other people often see our shadow, and we do not.
What addictive behavioural patterns do we have that our holding us back?
To better ourselves we must be willing to change. Remember we see the world as we are, not as it really is.
Our personal, professional and spiritual growth will come from observation of the:
- I – Myself
- We – Me and another
- All – The greater collective
Any trigger, stress and challenge are a catalyst for growth. Challenges handled effectively are opportunities and a golden rainbow if we take action rather than reaction.
All catalysts can change us personally, professionally and spiritually!
A trigger will always bite back, any trigger reflects the inner work that needs to be done within you. True growth requires us to be honest with ourselves. For e.g. if someone keeps telling us we are overweight, rather than react, go away and see is this true? If it is, do you want to change? If it’s not true, accept that is where the person is at (child). Being alive and open is key to the catalyst. Thank every difficulty you encounter with others as an opportunity. Being in our five percent conscious rather than unconscious is where the inner work starts.
Conclusion
Pain is part of life no matter who you are. And while it is seen by most as something to be avoided, pain can actually be a good thing. It opens a well and presents you with a valuable opportunity to grow. But it’s your job to decide what you are going to fill it up with — love or fear.
What would love to do to the people you deny, hate and resent?
Bibliography
Paul Chek blogs and media
Tony Robbins media
Paul Mort media
